Though preplanning the loss of a family member is one of the most emotionally complex things to do, it could also be a most meaningful experience. In Veterinary medicine, we have the opportunity and privilege to be part of someone’s whole lifetime. This is not being pessimistic, it is reality that our companions do not live as long as we do. Preplanning does not remove the pain of loss, but it may remove some of the uncertainty. We hope discussing this topic gives you perspective and empowers you when challenges arise. It will assist you to make calmer, more thoughtful decisions ahead of time instead of in a moment of crisis.
As you ask yourself and/or your family these questions, start by being gentle with yourself and keep it simple with open dialogue. What matters most to you and/or your family at the end of your companion’s life? Consider defining Quality of life early: some common categories include pain, appetite/hydration/, mobility, hygiene and engagement/joy. If you are interested in hospice/palliative care option, please seek guidance from your veterinarian and ask about specific doctors who come to your home as a comfort-focused practice. Unfortunately, we don’t always have a choice; however, clarifying your preferences ahead of time can sometimes help even in a crisis. Where would you like to be: clinic/hospital, home or neutral space? Have a simple plan for when it is time. Who do you call (hospital veterinarian, euthanasia service), do you have transportation if needed, and who else would like/needs to be present? Often the hardest part is to think about anything like this ahead of time. If you are choosing an at-home service: select a peaceful/comfortable location, consider lighting, music, photos, who else will be present and any rites/rituals/ceremony preferences. Choosing an aftercare option is often easier when you are not under pressure. Options include Individual cremation (ashes are returned to you), communal (no ashes are returned) or burial (please see your local regulations). Also consider keepsakes and memorial item that are offered by your hospital, crematorium or at-home service. Think about ways to memorialize if you so choose like planting a tree, creating a photobook, or donating to an animal charity in their name to name a few. Remember grief doesn’t end after the event and all the emotions you will be feeling are normal. Please seek assistance and don’t go through this alone. Preplanning helps you act from love rather than fear.